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Choosing Yourself Isn’t Selfish — It’s Sacred

mind-body-spirit
November 06, 2025•1 min read

So many women tell me they feel like they’ve lost themselves somewhere between taking care of everyone else and trying to hold it all together.

I get it. I’ve been there too.

There was a time I didn’t even recognize myself.

I was doing all the things, running my business, taking care of my family, saying yes to everyone. and somewhere along the way, I stopped saying yes to me.

I thought that’s just what women do.
We push through.
We stay strong.
We keep showing up.

But the truth?
I was exhausted.
I was depleted.
And then ….I got sick.

That was my wake-up call.
I realized I couldn’t keep giving from an empty cup.
Somewhere in all the doing, I had lost BEing.

Then one day, I made a different choice.
I decided I mattered.

That choice changed everything.
Not overnight, but moment by moment.

I began to rest without guilt.
To breathe before reacting.
To say “no” when I needed to.
And slowly, I started to feel like myself again. The person I choose to BE.

Choosing yourself doesn’t mean you’re abandoning anyone.
It means you’re finally including yourself in the love and care you so freely give to everyone else.

It’s not selfish.
It’s sacred.

If you’re ready to put yourself back on the list. To rediscover who you are beneath the busyness and the chaos. I would love to invite you into the 90-Day Inner BEauty Journey, How to Fill Your Cup.

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SIGN UP IS HERE: https://vmbeautiful.com/coaching-shop

Because your healing BEgins the moment you choose you. 💛


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Vicki McDougall-Butt

For years, Vicki was the go-to Inner BEauty and Life Coach right from her salon chair, where women felt safe sharing their stories and dreams. Helping women feel beautiful inside and out became her true passion. She’s an only child with four amazing kids and five grandbabies, living a lively life on her country property with dogs and fond memories of farm animals. Twice married and divorced once, Vicki knows a thing or two about love and resilience. A true Virgo, she’s all about tradition, music, and connection. That’s why she created VMBEautiful Coaching—to help women find their confidence, clarity, and authentic selves with no BS. If she’s not your coach, no worries—she’ll help you find the right one. Vicki believes every woman deserves to feel seen, valued, and unstoppable.

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