November.26.2024
December is here again and it seems to sneak up on us doesn't it?
In my November blog, I talked about finding Calm over Chaos during the busy season and how to keep things a bit more organized in order to avoid the overwhelm. I hope you got a chance to read it and found some inspiration to carry with you!
Now that December has arrived, I thought we could dive a bit deeper into a concept that’s close to my heart: Presence over Presents.
The difference lies in why you’re showing up. Are you there because it’s a “have to,” or are you fully engaged, attentive, and soaking in everything happening around you? It’s about shifting from simply being physically present to truly living in the moment.
I love December—not just because Christmas is here (though I’ll admit, that’s a huge part of it!). For me, it’s about spending time with family and friends, exchanging gifts, indulging in favorite foods and drinks, and sharing stories that bring back cherished memories. December feels like a bridge—a time to reflect on the past while dreaming about what’s to come.Over the past few years, I’ve worked hard on BEing present. And let me tell you—it’s a practice that requires patience and commitment!! And the rewards, they are worth it!. BEing present allows me to focus on the here and now, to embrace what’s happening without worrying about making it “just right.” It gives me the freedom to let go of perfection and instead, immerse myself in the experience.I’ve noticed a change in myself since adopting this mindset. The small things—the laughter at the dinner table, the sparkle in someone’s eye as they open a thoughtful gift, the smell of cookies baking in the kitchen—feel so much more vivid. When I stop chasing the idea of perfection, I can actually feel the joy of the season.
The Holiday Hustle vs. Mindful Moments
The hustle of the holiday season can be exciting, but it can also become a huge distraction. Between shopping for gifts, attending holiday parties, decorating the house, and preparing elaborate meals, it’s easy to lose sight of the people we love most—our family and friends. And yes, even ourselves!This December, why not carve out some intentional time for mindful moments? Set aside time each day to reflect on what you’re grateful for. Take a deep breath to center yourself amidst the chaos. Snuggle on the couch with your partner, your kids, or even your puppy. Make space for a quick bedtime story or share a laugh over a cup of hot cocoa.
Beyond the daily pauses, plan a non-negotiable family night. Whether it’s a game night, baking Christmas cookies together, or creating handmade ornaments, put away your electronics and immerse yourself in these shared experiences. It’s these simple, intentional acts that turn into cherished memories—the kind that last a lifetime.
Limit Distractions and Embrace Imperfections
When it’s finally time to gather with loved ones, make a collective effort to limit distractions. Tuck your phone away, and maybe even kindly encourage your guests to do the same. You’d be amazed at the depth of conversations and laughter that flow when everyone is fully present.
And let’s talk about perfection—or rather, letting go of it. Holidays don’t have to be picture-perfect to be meaningful. Ask for help! Have Auntie bring that amazing dip she made last year (she’ll love that you remembered). Let the kids decorate the cookies, even if they look a little wonky. When you embrace imperfections, you create lighter, more enjoyable moments that everyone will treasure.
After the celebrations, take time to reflect. How did it feel to let go of distractions and perfection? What did you notice about yourself or your loved ones? This reflective practice can help you carry the joy and ease of being present into other areas of your life.
The Spirit of Giving and Creating New Traditions
Gift-giving is such a beautiful part of the holidays, but it doesn’t have to be the focus. Time is often the most meaningful gift of all. Consider volunteering together as a family, adopting a family in need, or donating to your local food bank. These shared acts of kindness not only make an impact but also create bonds and memories that outlast material gifts.
Why not start a new tradition? Host a storytelling night, take a drive to see the Christmas lights, or go for a snowy evening walk with hot chocolate in hand. These simple, heartfelt traditions can add a fresh layer of meaning to the season.
And don’t underestimate the power of random acts of kindness. Pay for someone’s coffee, send an unexpected note of appreciation, or shovel a neighbor’s driveway. These gestures, no matter how small, can ripple out in ways you may never see—but they’re always felt.
One of my personal traditions is to make sure no one is alone on Christmas. If you’re in my circle and your plans fall through, know that there’s always a spot at my table for you.
Choosing Presence This December
So, as we dive into December together, I encourage you to reflect on where you’re placing your focus. Are you stuck in the hustle of crossing off to-dos, or are you taking time to truly connect with the people and moments around you?
This month, let’s make a collective effort to embrace the present—mind, body, and soul—and create memories that will carry us into the new year with full hearts.
What are some ways you plan to be more present this December?
I’d love to hear your thoughts!
I would like to wish you a Very Merry Christmas and a BEautiful New Year!
